Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Wednesday Weigh-in

So I weighed in this morning for the first time in a few weeks. I have been afraid because I didn't monitor my points much over Thanksgiving and I know I ate way more than I should have! So I was pleasantly surprised when the scale said I had lost 2.2 pounds since my last weigh in! Who knows how much I had lost before Thanksgiving though and then gained some back with all that pumpkin pie and mashed potatoes...mmmmm! My stomach is growling just thinking about it all again! So, this means I only have 1.8 pounds to go until I reach my goal, AGAIN! lol I think this is almost exactly where I was at this time last year too. Maybe I'll just make this be a holiday tradition...meet my weight goal during December and then again sometime during the summer, and during the time in between I'll just fight those 5 pounds! hahaha


Saturday, November 24, 2012

Post Thanksgiving

So how did all of you do over Thanksgiving? Our Thanksgiving dinner was great! Boy oh boy was it delicious! And the left overs the next couple of days were great too! I think I did pretty well watching the amount that I ate on Thanksgiving day, and even the day after...but today...well today is a different story. I decided to sleep in this morning and so I told the kids they could get a string cheese out of the fridge to eat while they waited for me to get up and make breakfast. When I got up an hour or so later I found that the kids had discovered the last pumpkin pie in the fridge. Did they eat string cheese? NO! hahaha They ate the pumpkin pie. My very helpful husband decided to just finish dividing up the pie at that point and so I took a piece too. I knew it wasn't a healthy start to my day, but it sure tasted good! And there was this little voice in the back of my head saying it wasn't so bad because this "pie" didn't have a crust...it was just the pumpkin filling. I know I know, that didn't make it "good for me" but it really did taste good!

Well that was the fist slip and it just continued all day...tonight my stomach feels very full and I am regretting some of the food choices I made. Nothing I can do about it now though except work harder tomorrow to get back on track. I will admit that I'm kind of afraid to weigh in and see what the damage is!

Did you stay strong? Or did that wonderful food get the better of you too?

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING, a day early! :)

So the other day I was having a conversation with my mom. She sent me a message asking me how many WW Points* a certain recipe was. Rather than sending a text back I called because the number of points per serving in this family recipe greatly varies depending on how exactly you make the recipe. I know that may sound a little obvious, but my mom and I have found that we often alter a recipe to our own taste. After so many years of using my altered recipe I forget exactly how my mom makes it. Usually she has made her own adjustments to the recipe but hasn't written them down so the recipe card I originally copied from her didn't have her alterations on it. Anyhow, the point is that if a recipe calls for 1 pound of hamburger we often put less in. Usually I put in about the same amount as my mom, but sometimes we vary. I also substitute a lot of lower fat ingredients for what the recipe actually calls for. For example, the recipe today called for 1 1/2 cups of shredded cheddar. I don't use cheddar very often. Instead I use a pizza blend of shredded cheese that consists of lower fat cheeses like mozzarella. So on my recipe card I have 3 different variations and point values. Following the exact recipe results in 1 cup (1 serving) = 10 WW Points*. If I cut the amount of hamburger and split the cheese half in half then 1 serving = 7 Points*. But by using the smaller amount of hamburger (which I do because I like the taste better, not because of the point value) and replace the full amount of cheese with the lower fat cheese then my 1 serving = 5 Points*!

These are easy changes, and they don't change the taste at all, but see how much difference it makes in my eating plan? My plan gives me 20 points per day. Making this recipe without any of the changes takes half my daily points!

Play with the ingredient lists on your recipes and see what a difference you can make! You might be able to easily make a big difference in your Thanksgiving meal too!

*WW Points is the old Weight Watchers Points program, not to be confused with the current Weight Watchers Points Plus program.

Friday, November 16, 2012

Water and Winter

As we head into the winter season and the weather is getting colder and colder I am having a more difficult time drinking enough water. Are you having the same problem? I know from prior experience that water is a huge part of losing weight! For me it is practically impossible to lose weight, or even maintain it, without drinking enough water. That was a hard fact for me to learn, but I did eventually learn it. I don't do as well as I should all the time, but who is perfect?!

So how does water help me lose weight? If I'm feeling constantly hungry I try to make sure I drink water about 30 minutes before a meal. Often your stomach is full long before your brain gets the message. So by drinking water 30 minutes before I eat my stomach is not totally empty and by the time I finish eating, my brain is getting the message that I'm full. So I stop eating without feeling like I'm still hungry or that I'm depriving myself.

I have also found that most of the time when I start feeling hungry I'm really just thirsty, but my brain has misinterpreted those feelings. If I go get some water I stop feeling hungry. That helps keep from over eating too.

Several years ago, while attempting to lose weight, I was told I should drink more water and I would be successful. That was something I did change in my life. Although I didn't know how much water I should be drinking I started drinking more. I didn't like the taste of water though and I knew that adding koolaid to it would defeat my purpose. I started keeping water bottles in the fridge and for me it was easier to drink more water if it was really really cold. Later, when I was pregnant I started to dislike ice water, it was just too cold, so I started just carrying a water bottle with me and drinking it at room temperature.

I think my taste changed partly because I was so used to drinking water by then. Ok I moved too and I think the water tasted different in the new town I was living in. Have you noticed how it tastes different in different places? Anyhow, I still prefer it at room temperature. Maybe that's part of the reason that I have a harder time drinking in the winter, the house is colder! I love to drink hot chocolate...and I could drink that all day long. :) Some times I warm the water up just a little but that's just not the same as hot chocolate!

So what do you do? Or am I the only one that has a difficult time with this?

Friday, November 9, 2012

Friday Weigh In

This morning I woke up after a restless night. The kids had actually slept all night which hasn't happened lately so I was frustrated that I woke up all night! I had very weird, disconcerting dreams all night. Nothing really scary or anything, just abstract and uncomfortable. On top of that I just couldn't seem to get comfortable. I blame my incredibly congested head! Seriously! Even though I didn't feel good and all I really wanted to do was curl up in bed and go back to sleep I decided that since I wasn't sleeping well anyhow, I would just get up and exercise and get the day going. I chose to do my Wii Fit Plus workout and weigh-in. Yesterday I caved and had a few pieces of my kids Halloween candy and so with the congestion and the candy I fully expected to see the scale go up. I felt like my head alone weighed more than 10 extra pounds! (Actually I still feel the same way while I write this! I hate the shift in seasons!) I was therefore pleasantly surprised to see only an increase of 1.5 pounds! hahaha Exercise does help me feel better, but it didn't clear up my head. Oh well. I had a good work out and took a small nap this afternoon. I plan to sleep in tomorrow! Yeah for Saturday mornings! :)

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

What are we teaching the next generation?

I love the fact that so many companies are using ad campaigns to try and change the way society looks at, and thinks about, beauty. So many young girls develop self esteem issues partly due to the images of women that we see in magazines and tv and in the movies. I know there has been a lot of talk about ways that society can encourage girls to have higher self esteem, to accept themselves for who they are and to love themselves. When my second grade and kindergarten boys had their school pictures taken I was appalled to see that they offer airbrushing and touch-ups! For elementary school pictures? Really?? We hear about designers focusing more on "real" sizes instead of the ultra thin girls. Some runway shows wont even use the incredibly slim models because they are trying to emphasize that most girls/women are not a size 0 or smaller. There are many celebrities that have done photo shoots without makeup to show girls that they shouldn't expect to naturally look like what they see in the media. That's great! But are there other things and attitudes in society that also teach us to think less of ourselves?

When a girl has a low self esteem issue she doesn't just wake up one morning as an adult and all of those issues are gone. On the contrary those feelings last far longer into womanhood than any of us would care to admit, and they often get worse with age. I think that most women would even agree that we are harder on ourselves and on other women than we would ever be on a man. And there is absolutely no doubt that women are allowed to be more critical and harsher on another woman than a man would ever be allowed to be!

Most of the media attention that we see regarding self esteem is focused on changing our perception of outer beauty. But I don't think that is the only place where we hurt ourselves, and the next generation. I think there are a couple of attitudes that are prevalent in society which are harder to recognize but are just as destructive. Over the past several weeks I have heard some conversations that have really bothered me and I've been thinking about them a lot. In fact, I've written and re-written this post so many times that I've lost count. I want to express my opinion in a way that doesn't just sound like a rant, but I'm having a difficult time doing that, so hear me out with an open mind please.

A couple of weeks ago I overheard a conversation between some teenagers. There was a girl who was very upset because her boyfriend had cheated on her. He slept with someone else and she found out about it.  She was complaining to another guy about this situation and his response was: "you have to understand. For us guys one vagina gets really old". Blah blah blah. I have heard this excuse many times so I wasn't so surprised to hear him claim that it's impossible for guys/men to be faithful. What really surprised me, and actually disgusted me, was her response to that. She actually said: "Well then don't tell someone you are going to be faithful to them. Just be honest that it's just sex. Don't have a relationship with a girl". WHAT?? Why do we just accept that males are incapable of controlling their hormones? Do we truly believe that it's harder for guys to keep their pants on than it is for girls? I don't believe that for a moment! Not only do adult women accept, and even expect, this of adult men but as a society we have taught our daughters that they shouldn't expect guys to be able to control themselves. Society expects everyone to have control over their actions...but we believe that males don't have the ability to control their sexual urges? If they physically or mentally are incapable of controlling their sexual urges then why are rape and molestation a crime? Isn't that just more proof that males are not capable of controlling their urges?

The next conversation I heard was on tv and they were discussing a case where a woman has been "outed" as a Madam. The discussion was centered on whether or not the client list should be released also. There were opinions on both sides. One person said that they thought it was a great idea that the list be released because for years the women have been embarrassed and the "Johns" have gotten off scott free. The opposing view is what grabbed my attention, and quite frankly it made me sick. This is what was said: "The reason I disagree is that we don't really know what is going on in these men's homes. We don't know if they're not getting any sex, we don't know if they're unmarried, we don't know if they have trouble at home... And there are some states where prostitution is legal, so I'm not sure that to release these names and cause that kind of pain and hurt and divorce and shame is a good thing". (I actually paused the show and typed it word for word just to make sure I got it correct)

WHAT??? Are you kidding? This is not a teenager talking either. This is a prominent woman, older than I am, who is now not only giving "Johns" a pass for breaking the law (where prostitution is illegal) but she is implying that their wives/girlfriends, whoever, could be partly to blame for their criminal act! That is why their names are going to be released. Not because someone has said this is morally wrong and you should be embarrassed or shamed. But because it is ILLEGAL. Someone who is arrested often gets their name in the newspaper. There is a section of most newspapers where you can read a list of arrests and those arrests can occur for breaking traffic laws clear up to murder. So do men who break the law and hire a prostitute deserve, need to be protected from public scrutiny? What about the woman who everyone now knows is a Madam? What if she was having trouble at home and needed money to support her family and this is how she chose to handle that? What if her husband isn't satisfying her sexually? What if she is trying to provide for a terminally ill family member? What about the pain and hurt and shame that this brings on her and her family? Maybe no criminal behavior should ever be reported for fear of the pain and hurt it might bring on the family of the criminal.

Will there really be more pain and hurt caused by releasing the names of these clients than there is when the name of a serial rapist or serial killer is released? Or how about the names of the shooters at Columbine or the theater in Colorado. What about the man or woman who embezzles money from the company they work for or own? What about the pain and hurt and embarrassment and shame that their parents, siblings, spouses, children, other family members and friends felt?

Both these conversations made me feel like we still put a man's wants, desires and pride ahead of a woman's. We allow society to blame and punish women for men's actions. It's just like blaming a rape victim for the rape. Why don't we stop accepting and promoting this attitude? Why don't we teach our daughters to expect more of males? Why don't we hold guys to the same standard we hold girls in regards to self control? If girls are sleeping around they are called tramps or whores or sluts, to name just a few. Derogatory terms are not used in connection with a guy who is sleeping around. This is not new. This has been the attitude for generations. Women are strong enough to stand up and say we want equal job opportunities, we want equal pay, but we can't demand the same standards in personal behavior from men?

These are not the attitudes that I want my daughter raised with. This is not what is acceptable in my home. The women I hear promoting these attitudes on tv and in the media are self proclaimed feminists. Am I totally off or does this fly in the face of feminism? Why are we still teaching girls that "boys will be boys" and to just live with it and accept it and expect it?

I wanted so badly to run over to the teenage girl and say "Don't devalue yourself so much. Do not accept that he is incapable of being faithful but he expects you to remain faithful to him. He needs to treat you with respect and you need to demand that respect." I wanted to call in to the woman on tv excusing the "Johns" and say "Hey, he broke the law just like she did. He deserves to be treated just like she is treated. If you don't want his name released then don't be releasing her name either!" So many women have eating disorders and weight problems because of low self esteem and we are adding to that problem by placing ourselves as second class citizens, at the mercy of a man's urges and desires. I feel so strongly that we need to stand up and say no! I will not accept that a male is incapable of using the brain in his head to make his decisions. I will not accept that he cannot control his hormones. I do not accept that male hormones create stronger urges than female hormones. If I can control myself then so can you!

Obviously I am passionate about this and I'm sorry for a rant but this hits very close to home for me. This attitude of "boys will be boys" had so much to do with my personal weight gain (if you missed that entry you can read it Here) and I personally know other woman who have been affected the same way so it really irritates me to hear women making the excuses for men. They don't even have to attempt to have self control unless it could be considered rape or sexual harassment or molestation. We don't expect it out of them and we don't even make them come up with their own excuses, we provide the excuses for them.

What do you think? Am I over sensitive? Or do these attitudes and excuses hurt us and the future generation?

Monday, November 5, 2012

Busy week with Halloween

I didn't think last week was going to be any different than the week before, even with Halloween. Boy was I wrong! I'm glad I got the week off to a good start with my exercise and eating because by Thursday I was holding on for dear life! The changes that are taking place are messing with my daily schedule and it's going to take a few weeks to nail down a new routine. Everything is good, these are good changes, but my routine is all out of whack! I'm so sorry I never got a post written last week...the before mentioned changes are to blame.

So I'm trying out one new possible routine today. So far it's going pretty good. I was able to get up a little early today and get a short workout in before getting breakfast ready. I did the Slim & 6 pack routine this morning and although I like it, my abs hate it! :) It's all good though.

I've done better than I expected with all the Halloween candy laying around my house. It is contained in my kids' trick or treat bags in one location and they receive about 3 pieces a night after dinner, IF they have eaten all their dinner. At this rate they will still be eating Halloween candy this summer. I have heard some people say that it is better to let them eat all of it quickly so that you can get it out of your house, but I don't like them on that big of a sugar rush. Actually the main reason I don't allow that is because that is not a habit I want them to get into at this age. I would rather they learn right now to be selective and limit their intake of candy. Honestly, there have been one or two nights when I've completely forgotten to give them any at all and they didn't even ask. They know that it is a big treat to get candy, and that even once they have the candy they have to do something to "earn" the right to eat that candy. I really wouldn't even feel bad throwing it all in the garbage can, as long as I don't think about the money associated with all that candy. They received so much of it this year too! I can't believe how much they have! I think they each have about 5-8 pounds of candy! It's insane!

How are you handling your post Halloween candy?